When God made Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, he gave different responsibility to MAN and WOMAN.
Man is the spiritual leader of the family, and woman is the spiritual helper to the man. When those two come together, it becomes one flesh. However, it seems doesn’t work like this way in the modern world. Many women prefer to take over the power of man in the society, and in the family because of their social positions. You might be heard of this a lot: woman has hold the highest position of the household to maintain her security of marriage. But does it really work like this way?
Don’t give me wrong, women are quite significant in our society, and I am not saying MAN should rule the family like a King. There is compromise in between man and woman in one family.
Ok, let’s make this more clear by asking this question: In the Garden of Eden, Eve took first fruit from the tree, but why Adam was the first human recognised as sinner by God? You know why? Because God said to Adam, he commanded Adam to do work in the garden (Gen 2:15), its your responsibility to look after her, and making sure not to eat the fruit which I commanded you. (Gen 3:17) But what did Adam do instead? He mucked around, played with birds and flowers.
That makes me think about marriage, when God created Adam as MAN, he wants Adam to be the spiritual leader to the woman, to enjoy the happiness of life. When we choose partners for our marriage, do we consider that? Maybe a man married a woman which high social power, who is going to lead the family? If the man is a person who really loves God, and serve his wife like serving Christ, then yes the should. He will understand the responsibility of being a REAL MAN, solemnly resolve before God to take full responsibility for himself, his wife, and his children. Man’s role to protect the family, love the family, serve them, and teach them the Word of God as the spiritual leader of the home. Take them to church every sunday, to worship with other believers. It never worked another way around, why? Because God made it this way. Man must be the spiritual leader of the family.
However, what if the man does not really love God, then who should lead the family? My answer is still the MAN. And there will be lots struggles in the marriage when it goes. A Man can pretend he loves God during the relationship, but if he does not have the heart to love Christ, the wife won’t receive his love. Why did that happened? When the man does not have the heart to love Christ, how can two life directions become one flesh? Maybe a “sorry, I thought its gotta work, at least we tried” is the only excuse to the ending. If you are a girl, do you want something like that? Or keep trying very hard to make the marriage work as wife’s contribution.
If you are a mature Christian and dating a sort of Christian (or non-Christian), do you feel guilty of telling your friends in the first place? Or tell them not to tell others… if that’s the case, you really should reconsider the relationship. Shouldn’t be starting a relationship an exciting thing to share? Also, it’s danger after getting married, although you two in love so deep, but one is deciding not to go along to church on Sundays, and the other one just had to follow the partner’s decision to make the marriage last. Or too hard to last, then divorce comes along.